Supporting friends or family experiencing abuse

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  • Try to understand that this is a difficult situation for your friend/family member
  • Self confidence and self esteem are likely to be low
  • Your friend/family member may find the things that have happened to them very embarrassing to talk about
  • Your friend/family member may not have had control of finances, tenancy/mortgage or income. Life may be scary
  • Your friend/family member may be worried about any repercussions should they decide to leave
  • Ultimately, your friend/family member may still love their partner
  • Make sure they know you are there for them
  • Listen and try to be non-judgemental
  • Support the friend/family member in finding where they can go for help
  • Offer to go with the friend/family member to support services, such as: Safespots, the doctor, solicitor or the police
  • Avoid telling the friend/family member what to do
  • Spend time with the friend/family member without their partner as often as you can
  • Without making it obvious, try to arrange social occasions that involve the friend/family member without their partner

Things to be mindful of:

  • The abuser may try to undermine you and isolate your friend/family member from any support network.
  • The abuser may try to turn your friend/family member against you by telling them lies about you
  • The abuser may be rude to you if you visit
  • The abuser won’t appreciate you getting involved so be careful about what you do and when you do it.
  • Never approach or challenge the abuser- this could put someone in more danger
  • Always prioritise safety- yours and theirs

Phone : 07873889637

Alderman Downward House

Wythenshawe Town Centre

M22 5RF